*I write for many publications, and was recently asked what I do when someone post a negative remark on my post?

OMG! It seems that everybody has something to say about everything right now. I’m not talking about an opinion. I’m talking about busting through a door {metaphorically speaking}, and jumping into your conversation. Or the famous, lets throw some shade at you on social media. Strong move, bruh. People have gotten too comfortable at being salty. When did life get so bad? Why are so many out of their lanes?

I don’t know if I am just lucky, or that I don’t give AF. I think a lot of it has to do with me closing my boarders.{Don’t get it twisted.} Meaning, I don’t surround myself with sketchy people. No judgment here. My tribe is supportive, inspirational and knows how to have a conversation. No salt needed. But what about social media?

It’s rare that I get push back on something I write, but it happens. Two things about that. First, if you come at me on social media, chances are you’re not in my tribe {meaning I don’t know you personally}, so I care not to expend the energy with a reply. That’s not to say that I have not met some wonderful people online. I have. We have spoken and we have built a strong foundation. Secondly, if I didn’t ask you for your opinion, your 2 cents buys you nothing here.

I am all for advocating, protesting and speaking your truth. But be cool about it. By all means if you see an injustice, yes, that may be a time to dance in the grey areas. But to lose your shit over a post you saw on social media, is just insane. Are people really that insecure about politics, masks, religion and whatever the hot topic is today…..Karen? {Come on, that’s funny.} I understand if you’re young. But far too many people in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s are losing their shit. Families are literally being torn apart. So let me dumb it down for ya.

Do you have a lane? Stay in it. Do you have an opinion? Keep it to yourself. Or if asked, have a conversation. Stop throwing shade. Don’t be salty. Time is too precious. And for Gods sake, don’t under any circumstances bring your 2 cents to my front door. We don’t accept coins here.

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.