9 Ways

Fucked 9 ways to Sunday. We’ve all been there. There are times when everything goes wrong, and nothing seems to go right. What are you to do?

I think where so many of us get in trouble, is trying to establish order in real time. Look, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t try and work the problem. What I am saying is, know when you’re toxic and when you’re not. Trust me. It happens to all of us, and we need not beat ourselves up about it. I recall a few years ago when I was caught in a season of failure. Loss after loss, I just couldn’t catch a break. And this went on for about 6 months. I finally decided that instead of trying to make something happen, that I would spend my afternoons in meditation. Hours of meditation.

One day my wife was dealing with some high anxiety, and we had to have a hard conversation. I asked if she was mad at me because I stop trying? She said not mad, just disappointed. Ouch! In the almost 20 years that we have been together, we have been united on all fronts. Always each others biggest cheerleader. Her anxiety was justified. But what she didn’t see, was all the internal work that I was doing on the inside. It took months. But when I got clear on my purpose and intention, it has been all downhill. We have been in a season of great harvest for the past 3 years. So why did that happen?

Being fucked 9 ways to Sunday doesn’t fuck around. For some people it may last a few hours. Others a few days or weeks. And yet some, it may last for years. The secret is to realize that some things are going to happen no matted what we do. So when it’s your Sunday, know that you can take a break and pick up again on Monday. There is no quit in this boy. But what I have learned about getting older, is rest and regroup are not quitting. They play an important part in development. It is how we prepare ourselves to get back more than we lost. Be smart about your 9 ways.

Being uncomfortable doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. In fact, a lot of times the pain in our head is greater than the physical pain. We tell ourselves stories and build up this picture that this is how it is always going to be. And for some, it will be. But the vast majority of us, that will not be the case. And what am I basing this off of? 35 years working in mental health and thousands of clients. Trust that I am not minimizing anyone’s pain or process. I simply am trying to get you to be open to the possibility that it may get better. That we don’t always have to be ego driven, and feel like we have to get the problem worked out today. Because most likely, there will be a Sunday somewhere, ready to fuck us. And it doesn’t always have to be 9 ways. If we don’t react and give it power, it may just be 3 or maybe 5. And sometimes the best action we can take, is no action at all.




I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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Vance Larson

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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