She doesn’t do, well…the same things in the bedroom that she used to do. That’s what he told me. Ah, the menu… one of my favorite subjects to write about. Here’s how the story goes. Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. Girl does everything she can to keep him. Time goes by….it comes to a screeching halt. Who is at fault? It’s not the menu. They both created it together. They just stop serving what was on it. No wonder they are both hungry. Let’s jump in.

New love is exciting love. You bring your “A” game, every game. You…


Cracks and crevasses. That’s where I go. That’s what I do. It’s 4:30 in the morning and I am getting ready to walk into the gym. It’s dark outside. I challenge myself to be better than I was yesterday. I do that every morning, 365 days a year.

Early Friday morning, before most people leave for work, I am out looking for the homeless. My day job, an outreach worker, leads me to the places that people do not want to go to. Those dark corners. Those places where you don’t feel safe. Trying to find those, who most have…


Stop trying to save people. Just love them. They’ll learn to save themselves. People don’t need saving. They need support. With over 3 decades in mental health, I have learned just how powerful this is. Because everyone is talking, and no one is listening. Make eye contact. Clear your mind. Give someone your undivided attention. Just watch how quickly they will heal.

So many of us {yes, I am guilty of this too} listen with the intent to reply, and not to learn. And that’s not listening. That is sales. You’re setting up the conversation to sell your story. Your…


Yeah, I said it. Did I mean it it? Well, kind of…

There was a Tom Hanks movie a few years back, where he was playing an FBI agent. He was with two other agents, and they just kept playing games. While in the car, they were telling jokes. They finally said to Tom, “I would love to hear you tell a joke.” Tom said “Knock knock?” They of course said “Who is there?” Tom said” Go fuck yourself.” I thought, brilliant! When you’re in your head, when you’re trying to do the right thing, don’t let anyone or anything…


I was going to write about the COVID culture, and how the act of bullying has taking over {by both those for and against}, but spirit decided that I should write about something of substance and depth. So get ready, for I am going to talk about what we don’t want to talk about. Death. Oh yeah. It’s coming for you.

Why death? Why now? The truth is, I don’t know. I act on life based on my feelings, not my thoughts. So when meditating, if I feel led to speak about death, I speak about death. No agenda behind…


She’s out with her friends, he’s at the bar. She’s on the phone, he’s watching Sports Center. She wants to go to dinner, he wants to go to a game. She’s watching TikTok, he’s watching porn. She wants to dance, he wants to chill. Well there you have it. The lone tango. Out of the gate, many relationships are formed by looks. But 6 months down the road, it’s a tango for one.

I once heard that you don’t marry the one you want to spend Friday night with. You marry the one you want to spend all day Saturday…


She sat in my office crying, wondering why she was such a bad person? I told her she is not, because that debt has been paid. I see this scenario play out all too often in relationships. It’s toxic and bullshit. When the debt has been settled, you don’t keep paying interest on it. Let’s get into it…

She was at a party 6 years ago with her boyfriend. He drifted off with his friends, and she was left to fend for herself. Long story short, she had a couple of drinks under her belt and ended up kissing another…


Alright, alright, alright…lets get into it. While the pandemic is again on the rise here in the states, I wanted to take a minute to reflect on post pandemic relationships. As it appears we will likely go into a lock down again in the coming months, lets talk about what we learned about our partners, and ourselves over the past 18 months. Lets go…

The past 18 months have been the busiest time in my professional life. I kid you not, I was working about 18 hours a day Monday thru Thursday, and add another 15 hours Friday thru Sunday…


The other day due to work, I found myself in an environment at time that I shouldn’t have been in. I was confronted and threatened. The situation was aggressive and I had to rely on my years of training. No one knew where I was. And it looked like I was going to have to go “hands on” just to try and get out safely. That was some of the best de-escalation work that I have ever done in my life. …


Next! The root of all evil. Too many people are stuck in the mindset of next. The next relationship, job, car or day. Thinking ahead, gets us further behind. Let me explain.

I’ll start first by dropping dime on myself. While I am probably one of the most laid back people you would ever meet, I too am guilty of the “next” from time to time. The wife and I returned from a vacation last week, and what should have been an amazing time, left me with mixed feelings. While we take a 3 day weekend every month, this trip…

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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