Just Enough Mother Fu*ker

I was talking to a new client the other day, and I thought to myself, just enough mother fucker. Oh yeah. We all know one, been one, or are dancing between just enough or not not enough. Let’s explore.

Just enough mother fuckers is a term I use when someone will work just hard enough not to get fired. Or, they do just enough in a relationship not to get dumped. And you know exactly what I am talking about. Who among us has stayed in a relationship too long, because each time we tried to end it, our partner said they would change? And they do, at least for a short period of time. That’s just enough time to give us false hope, and we buy it every single time. Been there?

Or what about the job that you have wanted to leave, but when you tender your resignation, you hear something like, “Change is coming just around the corner, and you’re not going to want miss that.” Just enough mother fuck strikes again. But the problem as I see it is, we swallow the pill. We need to say just enough, to the just enough mother fuckers.

I can recall when I was younger, if I didn’t have a vested interest in a job, partner or whatever I was involved in, I was a just enough mother fucker. I can forgive myself because I was young. But that is no excuse to be one. Because every time we do just enough, we are telling the universe that we aren’t ready for all we deserve. We have to work for it. Even on the days we don’t feel like it. And I see that all too often in my practice. One person tells the other person that you aren’t doing enough, so I won’t be doing anything for you. Next thing you know, you have let 2 years go by and neither of you is happy. Feeling disconnected, you seek happiness elsewhere.

So what’s the answer? Don’t be a just enough mother fucker. And don’t let one stay in your life. Be it a family member, lover or employer. The clock is ticking. Our days are numbered. Why aren’t we surrounding ourselves with people who elevate us? Because just enough, is not enough. And until we break the chains of mediocrity, we will feast at the table of just enough mother fucker. And who the fuck wants to do that?




I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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Vance Larson

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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