Magic Mistakes
Don’t change for them, but because of them. Because they are growing and you feel nothing but inspired. This is the mark of a healthy relationship. When two are so engaged in their own self growth, the relationship will flourish. But many times we get it wrong. Sometimes we are so busy looking for the mistake, that we overlook the magic. Let’s get into it…
Relationships really aren’t that complicated. We just over think them. There is an old joke that say’s, “A lot of us stayed with someone that we should have just fucked once.” I know I’ve been there. Especially when I was younger. But it wasn’t until my mid 30’s that I got a good handle on things. I stopped looking for someone to make me happy, and took that task on myself. Game changer.
When I invested in myself, I naturally became who really I was. If you met me, you got the real me. Never an asshole about it. But, unapologetic about it. If we didn’t vibe, it was all good. That was the beauty of self investment. By being who I really was, I attracted people who were more aligned with authenticity. Something that I am very proud of still today. My circle is literally lined with people from all walks of life. Politicians to porn stars. Constables to criminals. I vibe with real. Just be yourself…
What is interesting is that in 3 towns over when I was doing my inner work, there was a girl doing the same. We met on a dating app. We had one conversation on the phone. I invited her over to my house and it was an electric connection. Why? Because we both showed up as who we were, and completely vulnerable. Over 20 years later, we’re still married and connected in ways that I thought were never possible.
Look, in a social media age, there is so much that people want you to see. Try being someone different. Be yourself. It’s not all beautiful. Life can and will be messy at times. Look for the one person who will look for your magic and not your mistakes. And the way you do that is by showing up and knowing exactly who you are. It’s a beautiful thing. And so are you. And when you believe that. You have arrived.
