Next Level Love

We’ve all heard the term next level. But have you heard of next level love? Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? You want it, but will you work for it? Because love like everything has a cost. I know that sounds like bullshit, but I believe it to be true. And while I do believe in unconditional love, the cost to keep me in your life… is the work. Because I do not believe in unconditional acceptance.

Relationship are made up if many parts. But to experience next level love, you must master the art of communication. Not only with your partner, but with yourself. Communication bleeds over into every aspect of your relationship. It is the lack of communication that complicates the money and sex issues. It distorts our feelings. Because we have not properly shared the “why” in all we do. Communication peels back that layer and says “I need or want this” because. It makes it safe. It makes it clear.

Next level love transcends problems. It says “We are together in this” and that alone, takes the sting out of the problem. It simply becomes an opportunity to grow closer together. With no hidden agenda and being completely vulnerable, there is a clean slate. Understanding your partners “why” keeps your sword holstered. No need for war. Effective communication will ensure that.

Will there be tough times? My dear, life can and will be tough. That is why it is so important to communicate without an agenda. The only result should be what makes you safe. Because safe is sexy. It allows you to go to depths that you never thought were imaginable. And that is next level love. We don’t trust one another, because we don’t talk to one another. Sure we speak. But how often do we listen? How often do we put ourselves in each others shoes.

Hard conversations aren’t hard. You know what is hard? Living with someone who has no fucking idea who you are. Why you do the things you do. And why you want, what you want. I totally get it. They look good, or the sex is mind blowing. Or perhaps, they fill some other need. But unless you go deeper…you will never have next level love. Their looks will change. The sex becomes routine. Maybe the money runs out…along with the new adventures.

So here we are. Imagine having 5, 10, 20 years under your belt and it still has the new car smell…metaphorically speaking. It can happen. But you have to start talking. You have to be willing to look at those conversations through your partners eyes. And if you do. Next level love will show you more than you thought you deserved. And why? Because you did the work.

Next level love. You ready?