We all want security in the form of a guarantee. But if the only guarantee is that you won’t give up, that is more than enough. Far too many of us take no as the final answer. What if we shifted our thoughts to no, as being the first step, to the next step. It personally took me more than half of my life to realize that a no, is the start of a conversation…when appropriate. Please be aware that when it comes to personal space, safety and comfort level, no means no. And that is, the end of the discussion.

With the above being mentioned, how many times did you take no out of the gate and realized that you settled? Let me be the first to tell you, settling sucks. Be it a job, relationship or your environment, when we settle, we send a subconscious message that this is what we deserve. So don’t. Break this pattern immediately. It may take you some time to change the circumstances, but continue to work to get to yes. This sends the message that you deserve better. And the universe responds to not only thought, but to action. So take it.

Did you know that the average sales person makes 8 cold calls to reach their potential prospect? That’s 8 times hearing no. 8 times having to call back. 8 times of rejection. Then actually getting them on the phone is no guarantee that your going to make a sale. But either you settle, or you sell. And yes, when it comes to sales, you will fail a lot. The good news…it only takes one yes to change your life forever.

I’ve said it many times before. Effort is the answer. I don’t believe in being pushy. I do believe that hearing no, is the start of a conversation. And sometimes the conversation is what we hear in our own heads. Negative thinking like, “I’ll never lose weight” or I’ll never have enough money”. It’s the negative, it’s the no, it’s the never that keep us from even trying. Reset your mindset. Because the more you do, the more the no’s will not effect you.

The no is not the end. It’s not fatal. It’s a hurdle. They can be overcome. And while it is true that some no’s will lead to nowhere, accepting the no out of the gate, will change how you feel about yourself. Hearing no is not bad. It’s a step. And sometimes it’s a blessing. The key to no, is not letting it effect your self worth. And if you can do that. Hearing no is like hearing yes. It’s a dance that leads to life long adventure.



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Vance Larson

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.