Push

I read somewhere that if the people that we surround ourselves with don’t push us, we don’t have a circle. We have a cage. There it is. Self incarceration at its finest. I have long talked about the people we spend the most time with, we end up being like. Well, this is just an add on. So get turned on.

Our circle of influence should do exactly just that, influence. But I like to take it a step further. Our partner. Yes, our partner should have the ability to push us, without pushing us. They should possess the know how to get the most from us. I know, I know. That sounds like a lot of power to have. It is. And it should be. The person we have chosen to spend our lives with, should care for you beyond all others. So is that power, or passion?

Even the most disciplined of us get tired. Having someone else to get eyes on a situation is a good thing. Having that person have such a deep belief in us is important. Knowing how to motivate without belittling. To be able to build you up, when you feel like you cannot get up. That push is important.

Ego keeps many of us in the same place, getting the same results. Your circle is your strength. Maybe that’s why they say there is strength in numbers. Having people who want what’s best for you is a gift. If you are surrounded by people who refuse to let you fail {without bringing you down}, you’ve won. If they are supportive in their attempts to motivate, you will know. It hits differently. They will look at you like you’re magic, despite the mess that you are in. Honor that.

It’s shaking time. Time to close the circle. Say goodbye to those who make you tired. Say hello to those who make you inspired. Far too many of us are hanging onto who we went to the 3rd grade with. If you want to stay connected to them via social media, that is great. But to let them have a stake in your life, is something totally different.

As for me? My circle leans in when I am tapped out. They know how to get the best out of me. They will see me at my lowest and say, “You’re not done yet.” Because they love me. They know how to push me. And for that reason, I’m almost always at my best.