There is a common saying that we use when you live at the beach. We say, “Salt Life.” Salt life is everything beach. If you have ever been to a beach or island, most will find that they instantly relax and slow down. You can breathe easy and worries are far away. Living at the beach for the past 6 years, has certainly been a blessing. While I am probably the most laid back person that you will meet, salt life has me at a whole new level of clarity. But for the purposes of this article, I want to talk about the other salt life. The ugly one. So lets get into it.

Have you ever met someone who is always mad and complaining? They’re salty. They never appreciate anything. Always upset and can never be happy for you. They have a problem for every solution. They steal joy, as there isn’t an abundance of it. Not knowing that we ourselves, have the power to create joy and happiness. For the salty, their joy comes from the unhappiness. And baby, that’s the salt life that I don’t want.

I realized that I am only as good as my circle. For that reason, I keep it small. If you can’t improve my solitude, you will have very little access to me. And I do that for a reason. I value me. I value the peace that I keep and share. Working my entire life in mental health, I am often involved in chaotic situations. So when I am off the clock, you have got to be able to improve my peace. It’s not that I am better than you. It is an affirmation of a lifetime of meditation and manifestation. I’ve worked hard for my peace. So, you better bring something heavy to the table.

If you find yourself struggling in social situations, maybe its time to cut lose those who are salty. There is an old joke about a young man who goes to see a therapist. He say’s to the therapist, “I am an asshole because my father is an alcoholic.” The therapist says. “Maybe your father is an alcoholic because you’re an asshole.” I know, it’s a completely inappropriate joke. That said, sometimes the people we surround ourselves with, bring out the worst in us. Know your circle. Know if they’re salty. Pay attention to if you thrive, or barely survive when you’re with them.

As for me, it’s a salt life, baby. My circle is strong and they have earned the right to be there. The flip side of that coin, I have to constantly earn my spot in their circle. See what I am getting at? If we don’t bring out the best in each other, brother, you won’t be seeing me at all. Unless of course, you call my office and make an appointment.

Salt life. We don’t complicate things here. We keep it simple. We love hard. We appreciate the small things. And we really would love for you to join us.

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.