Sexual Healing

Sexual healing? Let’s talk about connection. I know. It’s a dirty trick. But hey, you’re here now, so you might as well finish reading this article. And I promise, I’ll say a few words about sexual healing. So let’s get into it.

It’s Christmas Day 2021, and I am in my hotel room working out. Wife and I have had an amazing getaway weekend. And as I am working out, I keep hearing {in my head} the song from U2 called Mysterious Ways. Theses words keep ringing out over and over again-

“To touch is to heal. To hurt is to steal. If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel.”

I was thinking about my relationship with my wife. We are that one couple that is always all over each other. We’ve been together going on 20 years, and would you believe that we kiss constantly, hug non stop, and are always touching each other. We’re that one couple that people always compliment, but in the same breath say, “Get a room.” We are close. We are in love. And we know that to touch is to heal.

I was thinking about this because we were in the car a lot over the past few days, and I realized that we were holding hands almost the whole time while I was driving. It’s true. More often than not when we’re together, we touch, even if it is just me grabbing her ass as I walk by. But why? It is because I am connected with her.

Think about it. The most intimate things we engage in, we are touching. It can be traced back to when we were children. When we got a boo boo, mom would kiss it. Instantly it made us feel better. We kiss for many reasons. As a sign of respect, love or simply to connect. We hold hands when we pray. This act binds us together. When we’re in love, we make love. Giving ourselves entirely to that person. Or better put in the words of Marvin Gaye-

“Sexual healing is something that’s is good for me.”

Truth is, there are a thousand different ways that we touch, that heal us. Skin to skin is powerful. But take caution. There is a flip side to that coin. Touch can also bring darkness. The intention behind the touch, will either help us or hurt us. Be careful to whom you let touch you. Know the intention, because it will be intimate…good or bad.

As for my wife and I. We kiss because we honor each other. We hold hands when we pray, to connect to God. We hug, to merge our energies. And when I grab her ass while passing her in the kitchen, she knows I acknowledge the woman in her. The intent in every touch, is heal. Never hurt. Which is why the U2 song has become deafening in my head-

“To touch is to heal. To hurt is to steal. If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel.”

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I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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Vance Larson

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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