Sideways Days

Sideways days. Oh yeah, we all have them. But it is what we do with them that counts. They shape and form us. So lets not get it twisted. You have a say. So make sure you’re speaking life into your day.

I have long spoken about the long hours I work. I don’t complain. It’s my choice. But every now and again, I step outside of my body and realize that I am right smack dab in the middle of one. Yesterday I forget to set my alarm. Overslept, and from the minute my eyes were open, there was no catching up. I am really good at not stressing in situations such as these. But, the constant losing ground started to creep up on me.

Fast forward 12 hours later, I stopped at the grocery store for a few items. I knew the next couple of days were going to be just as busy, so I thought this might be my best opportunity. Already behind, I thought 10 minutes max. So I go through self check out, and wouldn’t you believe the system was down, and now I had to enter every item by hand using the item code. Deep breath. I got this. Now 20 minutes behind. Walking to my car I thought, “There are a lot of days that you will realize at the end of your life, that weren’t really so bad. Try and realize them now.” Beautiful. I have trained my mind to see the good in every situation. I am proud of myself.

In my car, I realized that I have eaten but a piece of fruit and a protein bar all day. I have a sales call to get to for my consulting services in 40 minutes, and I am 50 minutes away from my office. Still, I know my business partner can start the call, so I will stop at Royal Farms and get some fries and a water. I pick out my water, place my order and go pay for my food. Walk over to the counter and was told it’s going to be at least 10 minutes. I thought, “This is bullshit.” I don’t have time for that, so I asked for a refund. Now they are trying to figure out how to do a charge back on the self check out register. No worries, I can eat after my call, which should be over by 8:30.

Back at my office and jump on my call…only a few minutes late. Calls going great, but then that sideways day creeps back in. I remember looking at the clock and it was 10:10. Mother Fucker!!! I haven’t eaten dinner yet, returned emails, and still had another 30 minutes of work I had to do. So I lit a candle, made a salad and just breathed for a few minutes. It’s 11:30 now, and I have to get up in a few hours. Was the day a bust? No. Just another affirmation that some days will go sideways. But you don’t have to go with them.

I’m sure we can all relate to days like this. I guess for me, I minimize the small stuff. Truth be told. I minimize the big stuff too. Why? Because I don’t want to give it power. A lifetime of meditating has taught me a few things. I think the biggest thing is anxiety almost always lies in the future. We play out scenarios of “what if’s”. Most of these things will never happen. The other thing is stay present. If we can do that, we’re not off in our heads creating a reality that doesn’t exist.

I could have let that day carry over into the next morning. But the slate is clean, and I hold the paint brush. So how did I deal with that sideways day? I know there are a lot of days that I will realize at the end of my life, that weren’t really so bad. And yesterday was one of them.




I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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Vance Larson

Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years, and have spent the last decade working as both a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist.

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