The Journey

The wife always teases me. She said that I slept my way through every letter in the alphabet. That’s not true. In my defense, I stopped at letter Y. {Oh come on, that’s funny.} And while I did have a very rich dating life before her, that was my journey. Just as she had hers. So, lets get into it….

Over the past couple of decades, we have received literally thousands of compliments on our relationship. {Not an exaggeration.} And while comparison is the root of all evil, we are constantly asked, “How can you be so close after all this time?” The answer is the journey. By the time we arrived in each others lives, we both had done some serious internal work.

The Walk

We both were coming out a long term relationships. Without knowing each other, we both simultaneously were walking alone, late into the night..every night. Diving deep inside ourselves. I remember after we had been together for a few months, I told her that one night, as the snow was falling, I was walking and literally praying for her. Unbeknownst to me, she was two towns over walking at the same time, on the same night, praying for me. The journey.

Every blue moon, someone will say that we can’t possibly be that happy. And the truth is, we’re not. We’re actually much happier than we led onto be. But there is no need to flaunt it. We have what works for us. I have written about it extensively. But the bottom line is, I don’t impede her journey, nor does she impede mine. Because we have such deep respect for each others growth, that will always come first. Even on the rare occasion when we don’t necessarily agree with it.

Life cannot be about you. It has to be bigger than you. I honor everything about me. But more importantly, the journey, the flow, is much bigger than the destination. And that’s pretty cool. It’s all temporary. Embrace that. And if you do, ownership and ego melt away. And could you ask for anything better in a relationship?