The Red Light Stare

Vance Larson
2 min readNov 18, 2023

Have you ever been driving behind some slow ass mother fucker? Then you get a chance to pass them, only to end up at a stop light, when they pull up next to you. You know you have. Then you get that red light stare. We all know it means, “What’s the rush, asshole?” Of course we do. Let’s get into it…

Fours days a week I commute an hour each way to get to my job. My personal best is 43 minutes. I admit it, I drive fast. {I can already feel my wife’s eyes rolling.} And on more than a few occasions, I have been on the receiving end of the red light stare. What are you going to do? I got places to be. But there is beauty of being mindful. I have gotten really good at recognizing when the universe is trying to save my ass. The first 15 cars that I went flying by, only to get stuck behind that Sunday driver, on a Tuesday afternoon. You can’t force where you don’t fit. So I embrace it. Red light stare no more.

So what are we really talking about? We are talking about being in tune with the natural flow of life. I know, you know, what I mean. When every little thing is working against you, that’s a clue that it is not for you. Honor that. Why risk a major setback when a minor inconvenience is being served? Take the L. Lose little or lose big. Maturity opts to lose little.

The weekend is upon us. And most of us will not be rushing. Do yourself a favor. Take this weekend pace into the work week. Besides, not all losses are losses. And many times, a setback is really a setup or a save. Don’t believe me? Google 9/11 passenger missed flight. He missed his flight by 10 minutes, due to a hangover. An hour later while in the airport, his plane flew into the north tower. What looked like a loss, was in fact another chance at life.

Those two cars that are driving side by side and blocking traffic for miles….yeah, that’s pretty much a bitch move. But learn to take it in stride. The red light stare is nothing, compared to what the universe is trying to save you from. Sure, I could be wrong. But I choose to see what can’t be seen. After all, the real magic is looking for magic. You can thank me later.

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Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years. I share my experiences {both personal and professional} about thought provoking subjects. Follow me.