Unaffected

Vance Larson
3 min readAug 26, 2023

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A lot of people are doing some outrageous things on social media. We built a society that say’s “Look at me”. All for the power of the Like, Share, and hopes of going viral. I get it. Having a bad day? Post for immediate validation. Find an ally. But what happens when someone throws shade? Makes a bad day worse.

Social media wasn’t a thing when I was growing up. Validation came from a small group of friends and what I did in school, both academically and with sports. People knew the “real” me. We didn’t get to create a world of pictures, memes and video’s through filters. It’s like we were living in black and white. And now as I dance though social media, I can see there are advantages to both. The flip side of that coin, a dark side. A very dark side. The rate of cyber bullying, eating disorders and suicide continues to climb. It is hard to watch the toll that social media can take on people.

When I was growing up during the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s, I didn’t have to worry about getting backlash from something I posted, by some dude in his underwear, sitting in his mothers basement. Now a days, most of us, if not all, have had to contend with a troll or two. And if you tap into your emotional intelligence, you will not take the bait and go down that rabbit hole. Even better, you are so secure in yourself that you are unaffected.

Ah….unaffected. Social media can be cool. But do you know what feels better than getting likes on social media? Being authentically who you are. Not needing validation from unknowns. Of course it feels good. I’ve gone viral once or twice. But those next couple of post that didn’t get the same reaction or attention, didn’t affect me one way or another. My validation comes from being the kind of man I am. And trust me, while most dig what I am putting out, I am definitely not everyone’s cup of tea. But they can go fuck themselves. Because I drink coffee. J/K…it’s an old joke. No, but really. Dig me or not. I sleep the same at night.

Unaffected is a powerful place to be. Everything that you desire, love, acceptance, support all reside in you. You don’t need to continue to go bigger to attract a bigger audience. Some social media platforms I am killing it. Others, flatline… And yet, here I am being true to my own spirit, my own voice. Now I’m not saying going bigger is wrong. I am saying be careful. Don’t lose yourself trying to become what you think others would like. Be unaffected. And remember. You drink coffee….Now that was funny.

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Vance Larson

I am a retired crisis counselor of 20 years. I share my experiences {both personal and professional} about thought provoking subjects. Follow me.